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| John Myung from Dream Theater |
I have so much think for today my friend (who shall not be named) has been having horrible problems lately mostly family and girl problems which to an extend makes him wanna start doing stupid shit again mostly drugs/drinking thinking it will help him get through it but will just get him back to were he started, miserable as hell.
I really don't know what to do at this point I feel like I fail as a friend to get him to stop doing harm to himself he's like a brother to me and I trust him with everything. I wish life was just back to how it was when we were little kids when we had problems would just simply just sit down and play N64, but doubt this will ever be like this I feel like talking to his mom who is my second mom pretty much, about his problems even though It would look like I'm stabbing him in the back but I don't see any of my other friends trying to stop him from it.
I really wanna be there for all my friends who I care about just as much as I do for my family but I always feel like I'm not doing anything for the better.If anyone here has a tip or idea for me please do tell because I'm so lost on what to do for this kid.
Dom I'll say this. There is only so much you can do to help friends. It's a hard struggle to go through and something we all have to face at some point we can't "save" everyone. You will lose friends, ppl you thought would be there forever and you can't imagine life without them. A few will come back over time, most won't.
ReplyDeleteFriendship is a 4-lane road. Sometimes you have to be 3 of those lanes and, in turn, sometimes you can only handle 1 lane. Honestly try playing games with them. Give them your most valuable asset, your time. Ppl don't care about what you know until they know you care. Also make it clear that drugs and alcohol can't be part of your life and that you can't be there when they chose to do that stuff.
You go to the parents when there is no other choice. When it gets bad. When harm is being done. I it's a hard drug: heroine, cocaine, pills, a lot of liquor, etc. Also make it clear to them (him) that you will go to their parents. And explain to them why you will. It's not bc you hate them, you want them in trouble. You want them safe. Sometimes going to their parents is more courageous than being their friend. To have to go above them to save them. I know in the long run you'll do what's right.